After ESL, please don’t ask

Often times, I get asked what I’m going to do after I’m done teaching English as a Second Language, which is a question I always fail to answer. Asking that to an ESL teacher is like asking most university students in their senior year of school where they will work after university; a question that will be ignored. Although, again and again this topic comes up in the form of your friends leaving the world of ESL for other opportunities (or some just going home to same old opportunities).

In a way, teaching ESL seems like it doesn’t advance your life as much as it is a super fun snooze-bar for a year. It seems (thanks to the amazing stalking abilities of Facebook) that people I know here in Korea seem to go home to the same job options as before they left without seeing much advancement in their career lives. I know there is a lot of personal enrichment from working abroad but it still doesn’t answer that ever antagonizing question of “what will you do next?”. Also, thoughts of going behind the IT desks again with ticketing systems, angry clients, and that special brand of IT corporate culture that any IT professional could recount for you sends chills up my spine (in a bad way).

I’m not one for practicality in my life’s career decisions. Hell, I studied Philosophy in university forever damning me to career jokes that have to do with which coffee shop I want to work at or if they taught me to make cappuccinos in class. The career utility of a Philosophy degree should be considered proof that when it comes to career decisions, I’m not practical. With this even being so, I am day by day inching closer to the close of another contract, which inevitably leads me to questions of what is after this. At this point, I’m inclined to say more ESL teaching, because I need to be honest with myself about two things: 1) I’m not done bouncing around the world and 2) all other options that I see seem abysmal.

Birthday Updates…

First and foremost I must thank all my friends and family, near and far for all the wonderful birthday messages! It really is great to get those texts, emails, phone calls, and wall posts.

As usual for my birthday, I terribly failed at planning anything in a timely manner! Originally, I was going to go to Tsushima but weather forbade it, but most of all my passport is in the Chinese Embassy getting it’s visa stamp (definitely precludes deporting from Korea then). Next, I thought about hiking Mt Jangsan…again weather (damn you rain! why must you always rain on the weekends and not on the weekdays when I don’t care). So it was down to last minute planning again.

This year on my birthday weekend, seems like it was THE weekend to do stuff: multiple birthdays, going away parties, live shows, etc…. So getting the crew together last minute was just not going to happen. Luckily YeYe pulled through with her usual grace and salvaged the day. Those of you that know me well know how much planning stuff will stress me out…which began to happen then YeYe stepped in and took over the drivers seat. THANK YOU!

So I went to a local comedy martial arts performance, called JUMP!, with YeYe and MingMing, which was a lot of fun (Ming-a-Ming Thank you for the ticket)! Damn the actors have some physical talent, flipping all over the stage, great martial arts skills, etc…! Really impressive! Then, YeYe knowing that I didn’t want to go hit the usual bars, decided to take me out to Maktum for a night full of some great booty shaking. After that, being exhausted from dancing and a night that was a little to long the day before we retired back home.

Now, I’m just looking forward to the impending China trip in under a week (so excited). Just borrowed a copy of Lonely Planet: China from my bud Murry and beginning to plan all the places and things I want to see. Although I bet this week at work is going to drag on just to tease me .

Oh man, and YeYe for my birthday, picked me up a ticket to go to Global Gathering. This year where Justice will be playing! It’s going to be an exciting month.

Photos stolen from MingMing

Sadly, since MingMing took the pictures she wasn’t in any of them…possible photo update/edit to come later.

Sept. 6th update

Since it has been a very long time between my last blog post about what I have been up to and now, I felt it was time to make a brief update on my life.

Where to begin…

  • First, I’m still living in Busan and loving it! Although at some point and I don’t know when, I have become so accustomed to the culture, language, and differences that most of the time I don’t notice that I live in a different country than where I’m from anymore.  It is very strange and interesting when I reminisce on what it was like for me here upon my arrival and compare it to now.
  • Second, I’m still dating and living with the wonderful YeYe. Everything is mind-blowingly great there. She is beautiful, has a great sense of humor, puts up with my nuisances and nuances, etc… the list goes on.
  • Third, I am still working at the Korea Hydro & Nuclear Power Co. teaching English to people who are far smarter than I am. The job began as a dream and has morphed into something much less than that. I’m sure lot’s will be blogged about this later.
  • Fourth, still have wanderlust and all signs point to that not going away anytime soon. So expect me to stay on the road for a fair amount of time (although I do miss the peoples back home and In & Out Burger).
  • Finally, it has also reached that time of year when the people you have become friends with in Korea start leaving in troves for other shores. Just part of the cycle here in Korea…but it is not one I’m too fond of. Already saw Tyler go (see here when he first arrived) and this week Megan leaves too. :(

Anyways, much to catch the intarwebs up on and much more to blog about in the future. Including my birthday this weekend and an impending trip to Shanghai/Beijing, China towards the end of the month. Let’s just hope I don’t drop the blogging ball so to speak with all this activity.

Cheers!

Changes for me in the ROK

So recently I have taken a new job here in Korea. Which means my journey here is being extended by at least another year. I recently took a job with the Korean Hydro & Nuclear Power Company which I’m quiet excited for. So Ryan teacher will go from teaching elementary students to teaching nuclear engineers that most likely far out stripe me in the intellectual realm, which I think will be awesome! So far the job seems to have many awesome perks: good salary, good people (get to work with my friend Murry and my new boss Sunny seems pretty legit), cool working environment (well at least a different one from the norms here in Korea), and just a change of pace (which is good for my sanity). There are two draw backs which aren’t bad just need time to adjust; first being an early morning schedule and second being a commute with an early morning schedule. That will be okay though because Murry and I just got a car together (“you know how I know your gay” jokes are bound to ensue).

Also I recently have moved into a new place in Jangsan with YeYe. It’s a groovy little loft on the 12 floor of a much nicer building than the last one that I lived in. So far things have been great although I’m lacking on certain key items of furniture and kitchen supplies (i.e. plates and silverware…probably could purloin some silverware from local eateries though). Everything seems to be setting up super nicely for an amazing year! Now the next step is just to save copious amounts of capital to fund my round the world excursion!

My Morning Walks to Work

Since I have been in Korea for about…340 or so days now, I have fallen into some routines. One particular routine is my walk from my apartment to the subway/work (they are in the same spot) that I repeat multiple times a day. I know it sounds mundane but I think it is something that I will most likely never forget.

So let’s begin with right after I lock my front door. I look left out the window at the end of the hallway to check the weather (i.e. rain, sun, etc…). Then I take the stairs, since I refuse to take an elevator for 3 floors. As I leave the stairwell I check to see if I have any new mail and then check out the massage chair store to see if the stoic lady who runs the shop to see if she registers me passing by; I walk by that shop everyday and I don’t think she has once looked up to see who is passing by her windows which always struck me as odd. Next, I take a left past the the LG shop and give a casual nod to the guys who have to stand outside and solicit business from the pedestrians, being the first of the many hellos or annyeong haseyos I deliver along my walk. There has been a few times when I changed this up in the case of the guy who really enthusiastically wanted to speak english every time I passed, or the girl who would never smile when I said hello so I slowly escalated the energy of my hellos till I made her smile finally crack.

After that, I pass by an art gallery that shows some absolutely exquisite art. This art gallery seems to have everything from traditional Korean art, to more European styles, then on to styles which are enjoyable but I lack the sophistication in my art knowledge to know how to articulately describe. There has been more times than I can count on both hands that the passing glance I give into the store has resulted in a momentary stall in proceeding to my destination to admire some new piece the gallery has moved in. That brings me to the last point about this gallery; it must be the most successful gallery in Busan by the rate it moves art through its doors. The art in the gallery seems to be rotated out weekly or at least biweekly, which just strikes me as an incredible pace for anything art related (I tend to think the world of art dealing is a slow, careful, and calculated sort of business and not something that would move that fast).

Next, I say hello to an older Korean man that I have dubbed the Happy Ajoshi (ajoshi being the Korean word for older man). This is a man that regardless of the day, weather, or fact that he works from well before sunrise to late after sunset 365 days a year running his little mart seems to be indelibly happy. It may be that he just enjoys his life in that mart that much or the fact that I have seen him cracking open the makkoli at 11am, but I am always thankful for that happy smiling old man face and his “bongawayo”s I receive from him everyday. Something about knowing that no matter what mood I am in when walking down the street I will at one point be greeted by his smiling face seems to always shine a little light on any gloom I’m feeling. On an interesting side note, I once had to go to his shop to by some garlic for some fettuccine alfredo I was making only to find myself stumbling out of his store an hour later after sharing two bottles of makkoli with him.

After parting ways with the Happy Ajoshi, I get to dish out my last regular annyeong haseyo of my normal walk. The last is an ajumma (Korean for older women) that makes these black bean paste filled pastries that are shaped like fish in a street vendor stall she sets up on the corner of an alleyway. She watches me walk back and forth on my walk sometimes up to 8 times a day depending on my days errands; always greeting me with a nod, a smile, or a simple hello in what must be one of the raspiest smokers voices I have ever heard. Sometimes I almost feel embarrassment at what she must be thinking because of how many times I walk by a day, at least it seems to give her a laugh.

The little things such as my walk to work or the subway and the many hellos I pass out to people I see or places that I look at that seem to be some of the most memorable. Slowly my little walk has become something that I look forward to almost everyday even though it is so mundane to think about. It is nice to find such a routine so enjoyable since I so regularly find routines to be tedious and mind numbing. Stole the idea for posting my morning walk from my buddy Heath.

Birthday in Korea

So keeping in tact with my usually posting timeliness I am finally writing a post about my birthday over a month after my birthday…I really need to get better about this whole blogging thing.

Anyways my birthday in Korea was definitely up there as one of the better ones that I have had. I guess I’ll just break this one down chronologically even though I think that is such a boring method to recount events…it will help it stay short and sweet this time. Also as usual, another failing I have like getting blogs out on time, is that I am absolutely horrible about planning any sort of event. In the past I would be lucky enough to have a girl in my life that would assume this roll since I am so helpless at this, but this year my friends pulled through for me and helped me with the details; Thanks guys you really are the best!!!! All I was capable of planning was a baseball game and going to a bar afterwords…which worked out great, but the people who went were what made all the difference.

  1. I got a package from the family back home with some postcards, photos, clothing, a rad fedora, and kick ass new rucksack backpack (that proved itself awesomely on my 2 week trip to Thailand). Also a very lovely mix CD from Ms. Anne back home.
  2. My actual birthday fell on a Friday but said baseball game party wasn’t happening till Saturday. So Mijin, Heath, and Lauren found that absolutely unacceptable, bless their extravagantly large hearts. So they took me to a bar in Kyungsung University with giant long-neck beer mugs that have refrigerated beer cozies that keep them indefinitely cold. They even brought me a cake and crazy Japanese dude complete with a red cowboy hat and sequined silver cowboy boots. He even would sing a song that went like, ” Diejaboo Diejaboo, Diejaboo Diejaboo…It’s ALRIGHT!” and would end it with a little spin and thumbs up (Lauren loved this guy).
  3. The next day was my first time attending a Professional Baseball game and on top of that I was attending it in Baseball crazed Asia. Well aside from the local team, the Busan Giants (yeah that’s right I’m a Giants fan here in Korea too), whooping the opposition there was an even more memorable event for me. My buddy Ben, a man that has so many tricks up his sleeve and in his hat that I am sure David Copperfield is green with envy, sang me Happy Birthday in Korean in front of the entire baseball stadium. When I say in front of the whole stadium, he went on stage, was on the big screen, and also unbelievably got literally thousands of Koreans to sing me Happy Birthday. It’s on the top of my birthday song list with Jake’s Happy Birthday played on bagpipes to me a few years ago. Oh and Ben gets recognized on the street sometimes now as the foreigner who sang Korean music and Korean Happy Birthday at the baseball game on the street sometimes.
  4. Finally, my friends all got together and helped me have an amazing bash starting at the Rock n’ Roll Bar in Haeundae (cool bar with a birds eye view of the beach, pool table, beer pong, etc…) and ending at one of my favorites, Kino-Eye in Kyungsung for some dancing! Mijin, again, 감사합니다 for the cologne, I get compliments on it whenever I wear it.

It was hands down a birthday blast that I will never forget. To much fun with so many peoples that I have grown to love over here in the Land of the Morning calm. Cheers 친구s!!!! (still need to work on my Konglish skills ㅋㅋㅋㅋ).

The Blues

There has been something about my journey thus far into Korea that has been kind of a difficult for me to fully adjust to and that is the transitivity of my relationships with people. It seems that this is something that has been a permeating factor of my time here. Some relationships I have with people back home failed or disappeared into the wind and a vast amount of the relationships I have been generating here seem to have a limited time cap on them, such as my friend Zen who will be moving to Guam very soon (Go you Zen!!!!!! I’m so stoked for you btw) or my friend Jimi who will be moving to Canada in a few months. It definitely makes the time I spend with people that much sweeter because there is that sense that my relationship with them will end very soon, so I must savor the moments. Even I am of a transitive nature here being only allowed to stay as long as I maintain a contract for work thus making myself feel like I am passing through and also not permanent.

For those of you that know me, I really love a good poetic quote that would perfectly encapsulate this situation with multiple layers of depth offering clairvoyance into thoughts of this kind, but sadly I have not been able to find one (even though I guarantee someone has already written the perfect quote). At first what came to mind was “All good things must come to an end” but I believe that the intended thought is something along the lines that even good things end. I was looking for something that made a statement more about how a sense of impeding end makes the time before that much more intense. Using some ideas from that quote that was previously stated, a good story must always come to an end. The ending can make or break a story, but the sense of an end keeps the story vivacious and alive. That is the reason for the phrase “happily ever after” because after that point the story would just become diluted and loose its potency. This is the fate of most serial comic books where the story is forced to continue on endlessly (what does Superman do after he saves the world? Save it again?) and that is why I maintain that short run comics are always superior.

It’s a strange feeling that even though I have an increasing number of friends, contacts, and connections here in Pusan, I still feel isolated. It’s those nights alone in my apartment when the feeling feels most immense. There is no real direct cause or one thing that is shaping me to feel this way but I feel that the transitivity of relationships magnifies this sense of isolation I feel. I heard that when you travel, especially alone, that it forces you to discover yourself. I am beginning to believe this isolation I feel will be the fire that will forge my mind into a more harmonious relationship with respects to myself and how I understand myself socially and as an individual. Even with constant strings of massive amounts of social interactions I will not be able to blind myself from the knowledge that I am isolated to a degree. Those nights alone in my apartment, those times when I am on a bus unable to intelligible communicate with anyone else, or when I could just use a friend but none are there. I have heard it said that when your young you feel like you will live forever, I don’t think that I have ever felt that way, but I think the key idea is the idea of ‘forever’. Perhaps this is just another taste of what it is to grow up and mature, to really learn that there is no such thing as forever, I have always known that to be true but I think I am now feeling it; taking it to heart so to speak. I look forward to see how this will make me grow and evolve…

Dancing

So I don’t know what has been happening over the past year or so but I have fallen in love with dancing. When people used to attempt to get me to dance they said it was like pulling teeth, but now I find myself dancing when I just think about music while I’m walking down the street, in the subway, or any bar. I was recently asked what has changed and the only way I can describe it would be to say that I finally feel it in the music. I remember that when I was asked why I don’t like dancing back when that was the case I used to respond by saying “the music just doesn’t make me move.” Now when a song is playing I just can’t stop moving! It definitely was a bump to the self esteem when my friend Haejin who is a belly dance instructor said that I wasn’t alright at dancing, not great but not bad…far better than my patented white boy wiggle days (don’t worry people who enjoyed that dance, it still influences me to this day).

You can’t go into a Korean dance club with out hearing this song remixed at least once. Most of the migookins (Americans) that read this blog might recognize the Craig David version of this song.

Hard Choices

I once told a guy named Floyd that if given a choice between being the decision maker on a hard choice or deferring to someone else so that I can live without the burden, that I would choose to be the decision maker. I strangely thought of this after reading a manga of Naruto. Shikamaru nearly quits being a ninja because after a mission almost all of his unit (who consists mainly of his friends) were hospitalized. His father explained to him that if he quits someone else will be put in charge of his friends and the pain will only be worse when they screw up and get his friend’s killed while Shikamaru proverbially sat on the sidelines and differed the choices that resulted in his friends death to someone else. Realizing this Shikamaru decides that he will continue leading regardless of how terrible he feels and most likely will feel in the future and vowing that he will tirelessly work in order to better protect his friends.

I believe that Shikamaru made the best choice that when given a chance to choose between deciding something difficult or differing the choice to another and relying on them to carry that burden, as he did, I would want the burden. Only then will I be able to ensure the best choice is made because the choice is within my power and  if I choose poorly that is because I did not work hard enough to understand, comprehend, etc… the ramifications of my choice. I cannot damn someone else for a choice that I coward away from. I instead have to use my failure as fuel for the fires that will power me to work harder, think more, and to make a wiser decision for future hard choices. Continue reading

Has why to live…

He who has why to live can bear almost any how
-Nietzsche

Thought this was an awesome quote, because it touches on that the people that have a purpose/reason/goal (i.e. the ‘why’) do not need to ask themselves ‘how to live.’ They already have their answer. For the Atlas Shrugged fans out there I bet this is a quote that can speak to you.